The Spirit of Magnolia

An infertility / adoption / pregnancy blog. After 3 MCs and IF testing (with no diagnosis) we shifted our focus to adoption. After being matched we discovered we were pregnant. After telling our agency about the pregnancy our match was severed. This is the story of our journey to parenthood.

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Location: Minnesota, United States

Tuesday, April 15, 2008

IDIOT at work

I am still dumbfounded as to what someone said to me today. I just cant believe someone would ever think this - let along actually VERBALIZE it ....

I was having difficulty locating a notary for some adoption paperwork today (the dossier paperwork required a specific type of stamp that is not the usual notary stamp). After making a ton of phone calls, to no avail, a coworker walked up to me and asked,
"Do you think this is God's way of telling you that you shouldn't adopt?"

What do you say to that?
My response: a strong "WHAT?" (while I picked my jaw up off the floor).
Her response: "It shouldn't be this difficult if it was what He wanted you to do".
My response: another strong "WHAT?" (as I bit my tongue so I wouldn't start SCREAMING at her). I informed her that this is what ALL adoptive parents must go through - its not just us!

I wanted to grab her and shake her!!!

To add insult to injury, this is the same coworker that pulled me aside earlier this month to tell me that she was 8-weeks pregnant (with her second child). She has been acting "Holier Than Thou" for weeks because God has blessed her with another child. Normally I would be happy for her but since she continually rubs my nose in it I REFUSE!!!

Don't get me wrong - I would not wish a miscarriage on ANYONE - EVER - but I cant help but wish that she could feel just a shred of the agony that Ive felt. I think she would change her tune then.

Ive said in the past that if biological parents had to go through the same things that adoptive parents had to go through then the birthrate would be cut in half.
Ive also said that adoptive parents are blessed to a higher degree than biological parents. I could be wrong on that one - but I'll never know since its highly unlikely that I'll ever be a biological parent and Im THRILLED about becoming an adoptive parent (hopefully SOON!)

Thursday, April 03, 2008


Today was a very big day!

We met with our SW and the coordinator for Peru at our agency today. We met for almost 2 hrs! It was great - but there was so much information - I'm suffering from total overload now!

I don't want to jinx anything ... but ... it went REALLY GOOD .. I mean REALLY REALLY GOOD!!!! We are feeling very positive about our decision to dual-list with Peru. I think this will be it for us!!! (shhh - I'm scared I might jinx it!)

We went to get our passports started right after the meeting. We also got certified copies of our BC & ML. WHOO HOO! Cross those things off the list!

Now we need to fill out MORE FORMS and schedule physicals and psych evaluations! Yikes!
We also have to attend another seminar (Before I Joined Your Family) about adopting 1+yr olds via Int'l in a few weeks. Should be a good one!

I forgot how much I dread the forms! Oh well, at least we are being productive. This will bring us one step closer to our children!

On a somber note, even though today was such a positive day, I am still saddened by the MC I had 2yrs ago today. Its hard to believe that time has slipped by so quickly. It seems like only yesterday ....

Tuesday, April 01, 2008

Major Milestone / Full Circle

Ive got some wonderful news to share!!! (No - we haven't been matched yet ...)

After my breakdown last Friday, my DH has finally decided that he's ready to dual-list with an International program! WHOO HOO!!! Ive been praying for this moment for over a year!!!!!

His one request was that we picked a Spanish speaking country because he speaks Spanish.
That works for me! (looks like I'm going to learn Spanish now!)
After much thought and consideration ..... we picked .... PERU !

We have an appointment with our SW and the Peru coordinator this Thursday, April 3rd to get the ball rolling!

Now, if you've been reading this post you may remember that April 3rd is a very significant date for us. 4/3/08 will be the 2yr anniversary of my last MC; it will also be the 1yr anniversary of the day we signed with our adoption agency!!!
It seems only fitting that we dual-list with Peru on the same day we started the process for the Domestic program. This timing wasn't planned ... maybe its a sign ... I HOPE SO!!!

Luckily, this time around, we've already got a bunch of the paperwork done. We still have to get passports, etc. but our homestudy was done last Sept so it only needs to be tweaked to accommodate Peru requirements. That will save a TON of time! We're going to get our dossier paperwork completed in record time!

Wish us luck for a great meeting on Thursday!!! Im so excited I can hardly wait!!!